Let me cut to the chase. I have to sum up the recent Miranda Kerr controversy to a case of “no she didn’t say that”. Is it possible that this woman could be that beautiful have that husband and now to add insult to injury give birth to that child sans an epidural. Yep. That’s just about enough to set off a firestorm.
In case you haven’t heard Miranda Kerr the supermodel known from Victoria’s Secret and as wife to husband Orlando Bloom has found herself at the center of a Mommy War. The 29 year old new mother who is gracing the cover of Harper’s Bazaar UK made comments to the magazine that have sent some Moms into attack mode.
Miranda told Harper’s that she decided to have a natural birth without any pain medication after watching baby-bonding videos. She said that the babies who did not have epidurals went straight for the breast whereas babies whose mothers had epidurals were not able to latch on as quickly. Kerr said. “The baby was a little bit drugged up, and I was like, ‘Well I don’t want that.’ I wanted to give him the best possible start in life I could.”
On the popular parenting blog, Café Mom’s TheStir.com, which I do like some mothers are none to happy about Kerr’s comments stating, “Being a supermodel doesn’t make you an expert” and that she should “choose her words more wisely.” I do have to take issue with such a harsh stance against Kerr. Is it irritating to some that she is so gorgeous and was able to deliver that baby and be on the cover of a magazine looking amazing just some months later…well yeah. But should it be irritating that she made these comments…well no.
The Mommyhood is getting a bit of a ‘tude don’t you think? Miranda may not be an expert on all things parenting or childbirth but she is an expert on what was right for her and her family. And Miranda should be supported in sharing what her rationale was for giving birth naturally. Now to me that is the most irrational thing a woman can do cause have you seen what has to come out of where? Ouch. But the role of moms should be to support other moms even when they choose a course that would not be our own. We do need to weigh out the pros and cons and to consider what is factual. There is some evidence on both sides relative to epidurals and their impact on babies.
While I strongly believe in medical reports that state there are no harmful lasting impact on babies whose mothers have had epidural anesthesia if a mother has a concern and is brave enough to give birth naturally who are we to judge? Will Miranda sway moms around the world away from epidurals? Those labor pains that I have experienced tell me no. But will harsh criticism of a mother’s birthing choice breakdown the motherhood? Something tells me yes. And if there is a backlash against this I am sure it will be in the category of “no she didn’t say that”.